Does granny's legacy really deserve to be anything other than a financial one? Louise Pilkington, Lewes My advice to you is to think of the future and the kind of relationship you want with your brother. Can you afford to do the same with your brother? While granny isn't here to face the consequences of her decision, you are. Whatever granny's reasons, she placed a monetary value on her grandchildren. She's put a price on you Did your granny make an express wish that her money never be given to your brother? Did she have a good reason to rescue you from student poverty and ignore your brother? If the situation was reversed, and you were the "better-off" one and your brother a student - would granny have left all her money to him and not to you? Time to face facts. Your conscience will be cleared, your brother will appreciate this gracious act and your granny will be none the wiser. Use half of the money to purchase something for your brother that you know he wants, and which previously you were not able to afford. Paul Swets, Derbyshireīuy him a pressie The solution is simple.
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It is for the living to manage their own lives: you are free to decide.
Regarding your worry about going against granny's wishes, I would say that her will specified to whom the money was left and not what the recipient should do with it. It's for the living I assume you are on cordial terms with your brother and that you wish the relationship to stay that way. You could even give some to your brother. Buy a Ferrari, sponser a child in Africa, blow it on a meal at the Fat Duck. Helen Page, Northumberlandĭo what you want Granny wanted to give the money to you. Your grandmother is dead and gone - don't let her come between you and your brother. Even if he does cash it, you haven't lost anything - you've gained half of her estate. Send him a cheque and explain that you think it was unjust of your grandmother to act as she did, even though she probably did it because he's richer than you. Show him that you care for him and want to treat him fairly. Your brother, even though he is richer than you are, will probably be feeling the same. I was bitterly hurt because it demonstrated how little my father and brother must really have cared. My family and I received nothing and my brother has never spoken to me since. My father recently died, leaving everything to my younger brother (who is much better off than I am) and his children.
Gran's dead and gone I also am one of two children. Halve it Granny no longer owns the money, so it's up to you to decide what to do with it.
Although he, to his credit, has made no comment, your life-long relationship with your brother would only be strengthened by your generosity.
Being poor and a student isn't for life, but your relationship with your brother is. Share it Your grandmother was probably influenced by your current circumstances and perhaps was not thinking of the long-term implications of apparent favouritism between siblings. That way there should be no hard feelings later on. Why not just accept the will as it stands and get your brother a rather extravagant Christmas present with a good portion of it. She had her reasons for leaving all the money to you but no-one will ever know them now. You probably shouldn't go against your grandmother's wishes. Family is more important than dollars and dimes. So if this is going to cause problems just offer a fair share to your brother and make peace with him. I would imagine whatever your gran left you she would have hoped would be for the better than for the worse. You are clearly worried about how this may affect your relationship with your brother. How you choose to use it (expensive cars, holidays, pay off debt, or share with other family members) is entirely up to you - she decided at some point that she was happy for you to have it, and must therefore have been happy in her own mind that however you use it is fine with her. Family come before dollars and dimes Your gran has left everything to you, for whatever reason.
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